Thursday, January 17, 2013

Board and Batten Makeover

Our living room has really undergone quite the transformation in the five years that we've lived at this address.  Through the years it has endured my ever-evolving style and two growing children.

When we moved into this bare-boned, under-styled rambler home, I was a more than a little nervous about the enormous project we were taking on.  Especially coming from our semi-new, completely finished 3-bedroom condo.  But with trying to start a family, came a realistic look at our living situation.  Although perfect on the inside, we were very aware of the challenge it would be to haul a newborn in a carseat in and out of a tiny detached garage and down three flights of stairs every day.  And I didn't even want to THINK about doing groceries by myself!

Now, I'm certainly not trying to complain about my beautiful little 3-bedroom condo.  In fact, I loved it.  Cried when we packed up.  Literally sat on the floor in my master bedroom sobbing as my husband and his best friend loaded the last of the boxes into our vehicle.  (I may or may not have been hormonal.)  I was the crazy wife who begged her husband for a house and cried when I actually got my way.

You would think things would improve when we spent our first night in our new home...but that was not the case.  Walking into our "new" home and sitting on our couch surrounded by 4,000 boxes that contained our life, the sinking reality of what we had done came crashing down on me and invited an entire new round of tears.  At the risk of sounding like a complete looney toon...nevermind, I won't go there.




Yeah.  We're a little crazy, right?!  But with the help of my friend and designer Monica...we had a vision and a plan.  And slowly but surely our living room, along with the rest of our house, transformed into a livable and lovable home.

Unfortunately what we learned through the process of gutting and re-doing our entire house was that when you have to make decisions quick and efficiently, occasionally you will make choices you regret. Although I adored our living room when we first painted and decorated...it was the first room in the house to be completed, and by the time we completed the rest of the rooms, our living room became dead to me.

That may sound a little harsh.  But really, when you look at the mini home tour I posted in 2011 (back when we were anxiously awaiting Cocoa's homecoming) you will quickly see why.  While I have no fear of painting dark, intense, or bright colors...one thing I failed to consider was the lighting in that room.  Had I lived in the home a season or two prior to making paint decisions, I would have realized that there is almost zero natural light in this room 10 months out of the year (our only hope is when the sun breaks through at just the right time of day, and let's be real - this is Seattle...those days are rare).  It wasn't long before I felt like I was living in a dungeon or a dark cave.

I could have done the easy fix and paint it a neutral like I did most other rooms in the house.  My problem was that my carpets were beige.  My couch was beige.  Painting my walls beige would leave completely devoid of color.  Color that I crave.  Color that I need in my life.

Source: Mike Fiechtner Photography
So I did nothing.  To the room at least...  I looked through magazines, browsed site after site, and pinned a bazillion things.  I started to notice a trend in my choices which led me to a big decision - for the first time since we got married, I needed to choose another color palette for my living room.  I started to re-think what inspired this space to begin with and I noticed that the pieces that put together this room didn't speak to me anymore.  In fact, the only thing that DID speak to me were my Pier 1 clearance curtains I scored and impulsively bought a few months before these pictures were taken.  So I decided to design a room around them.

I knew I wanted more color, more brightness, and more pow.  I started with choosing a wall color.  This turned out to be a much harder decision for me than anticipated.  I collected color swatches every time I passed a paint department in search for the perfect shade.  My problem was that I couldn't find a shade that popped against those curtains, was light enough to brighten the room, and looked just right next to the dark red bricks that my pot-belly stove sat against.

Inadvertently, my daughter changed the game a bit when she pulled a couple bricks out of the hearth (back when she was crawling and discovering her strength).  Being that this house was built in the 20's and last remodeled in the 60's (besides our recent re-do) my husband found it impossible to perfectly match a grout color as he was fixing the hearth.  Which led us to impulsively painting the brick in its entirety.  Which completely changed the look of the entire room!  I was completely inspired.  Starting at square one, I took a look at my inspiration boards with new eyes.

That's when I came up with the plan to do board and batten in this room.  All of a sudden everything just fell into place.  The perfect shade showed up at the perfect time.  After a lot of begging and prodding, my husband finally agreed that it was time for a change.  Like I teased in my year in review, in May I put my man to work on the transformation.  It didn't take long to realize we had made the right decision.  It felt a million times brighter in our space!

The process was time consuming and most definitely a lot of work....but well worth it for SURE!







As always in our household...this room is a work in progress.  New closet doors are coming in just a matter of days, wall art is still up in the air, I would LOVE to refinish those chairs, get a cute TV stand (or wall mount that baby), and maybe add some more pops of blue.  But for the curious folks out there...

The tufted sofa is a Martha Stewart design that we recently purchased from the Macy's Home Store on a sale.  The stunning yellow chairs we inherited after my husband's grandma passed away.  The sofa table is from Ikea.  The throw pillows I found at World Market.  The curtains were a lucky Pier 1 clearance find.  The wall color is Benjamin Moore's "Spice Market" (an Aura color - well worth the money, I promise) and the board and batten is painted their Aura "White".  Storage ottoman is from Target (although I wouldn't recommend it, it's on the way OUTTA here).  The fuzzy cream throw is also from Pier 1.  The red vase was a wedding gift from Pottery Barn.   The big "R" above the TV is from L'Alfabeto on Etsy.  

I know my choices are a little bit out there for most, but for the first time in a looooong time I can say this space puts a BIG SMILE on my face =)


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Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The Perfect Family Photos

It was just a couple months ago I shared with you my concerns about our upcoming family photo shoot.  However, it just came to my realization that I never actually showed you how they turned out!!!

We completely lucked out with the most amazing photographer!  I was so thankful to so many of you locals who referred their favorite photographers in the Seattle area.  I spent a lot of time looking through all their websites to find someone who fit our budget and our style.  Once I chose my top two, I presented them to my husband for the final decision, knowing I would be completely thrilled with either photographer.

My husband chose Mike Fiechtner for his attention to detail and for the fact that he was a fellow adoptive father who has a heart for Africa just like we do.  When it came down to it, we just wanted to support someone who shared the same values as we do!

I cannot tell you HOW thrilled I am with everything about the photo shoot!  Mike was professional and friendly and GREAT with the kids (like BEYOND great, the kids had the best time ever).  After weeks of stressing over what to wear, I felt that it all came together wonderfully.  My husband and I collaboratively decided to keep our wardrobes full of color, just like everything else in our lives! =)  Mike also had the great idea of doing a journalistic approach to a "Day In The Life" of our family.  He arrived while we were getting ready and played with the kids, snapping photos of our home, our play, and us getting ready.  It was a great opportunity for the kids to get to know him in a comfortable setting before we took off and posed for some serious pictures.



He rode along with us to two separate locations for some traditional family photos, as well as some silly, un-posed goodness.  By far, my favorite family shoot we have done ever!  My kids did not complain once (except for maybe that smell back by the dumpster), and were in fact sad to see Mike go!




Check out the rest of our shoot on Mike's blog and maybe LIKE him on Facebook and show him some love for his great work!!!

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Tuesday, January 15, 2013

The Great Pinterest Debate

Love it or hate it, Pinterest has become a big part of our world.  Even someone who has never visited the site or isn't actively pinning is sure to have at least a knowledge of the basic concept.  But what you do with this addition to social media, is completely up to you.

This Domesticated Diva on Pinterest

There is a friendly debate going on within my circle of friends about Pinterest, and I'm sure you've heard it as well...


  • Position A would categorize Pinterest as an inspiration motherload and uses the site to its full capacity - several boards pinned with beautiful images of home design, dinner recipes, party planning ideas, style inspiration, and huge crafty to do lists.  Some use this inspiration to beautify their homes and their bodies and feel a great sense of accomplishment when they do.  Others simply find joy from gleaming beauty from the pictures.
  • Position B finds the site an awful, self-confidence sucking, time consuming, devaluing, horrible, horrible creation to make moms feel inferior (or something slightly less horrific) and refuse to be a part of it.


Has it become clear which position I hold here?  Probably.  Do I think less of those who hold the opposite position?  Definitely not.  In fact, I don't altogether disagree with them.

Pinterest is time consuming.  How often have I sat down in search of a recipe for dinner and an hour later have pinned 20,000 things but still haven't a dang clue what to make and end up with grilled cheese?  More often than I care to admit.

Pinterest can be devaluing.  Countless times I have wracked my brain for a creative solution to my problem only to come up with the most original, best idea ever created...only to find out my best friend just pinned it 20 minutes ago.  (Okay so this particular instance is completely made up...but ever heard of the saying that no ideas are original anymore?  Totally believe that.)

Pinerest sometimes does make moms feel inferior.  We all know that there are those moms out there that try to make others look bad by throwing the most elaborate parties, doing detailed crafts with their kids every day, have a perfectly spotless house, the most well-behaved kids, AND always looks like she stepped out of a magazine photo shoot.  NOT really! Those moms aren't real, and yet in our perception they always show their faces on the worst days, don't they?  So let's face it - we get enough of this in the real world, do we need it on all avenues of social media as well?

These are some of the biggest reasons moms tell me they don't use Pinterest.  And you know what?  If that works best for you and your family...by all means.  But despite all these potentially negative aspects, I still choose to use Pinterest.  I have to monitor my time on it - even if it means setting a timer to pick out a meal.  I have to remind myself that my ideas ARE awesome, even if someone came up with it somewhere on the east coast the day before I did (we probably came up with it the same time anyway, given the time change).  And if I catch myself slipping into the mommy comparison zone - its definitely a time for a break.  I choose to use Pinterest because sometimes - I need a little inspiration!  Whether it's for a fresh twist on a home baked meal, or a simple sewing tutorial for my daughter's wardrobe, or even to find out how to take crayon off my newly inherited furniture.  And let's face it - if I didn't have an online pin-board....my desk would be just that much MORE cluttered with my inspiration board.  And that's not a fight I want to fight with my husband.  Again.

So where do you stand on the whole Pinterest debate?  Do take Position A or Position B?  Or somewhere in between?

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Friday, January 11, 2013

The {Zebra + Pink} Diva Party!!!

{Flashback to January 2012}

As I'm in the midst of planning Cocoa's 2ND birthday bash, I was inspired to finally share the photos from last year's party.  Don't worry, YES I am very aware that I go completely overboard for my kids.  It is not meant to outshine anyone or make anyone feel bad about having a simple party for their kids.  This is just simply something I love to do and take pleasure in, as well as a fun creative outlet for a stay at home mom =)  Enjoy!

And yes, the details on her invitation have been changed for privacy reasons =)

I showed you pictures from Cocoa's birthday...but being that her birthday is the WEEK of Christmas, it makes throwing a party a little challenging.  Someday when she's old enough she might care and we might do it anyway....but for now, she doesn't know the difference.  So we waited until the holidays were over and the Christmas decorations were put away, and we threw her the Diva party she deserved!  (And possibly the diva party I have been planning for two years in my head, hehe!)

Although we try our hardest not to pressure our family into traveling for our kids' birthday parties, it always makes it EXTRA special when they are able to be there.  This time, only the grandparents were able to make it.  I feel sorry for Cocoa that her cousins probably won't be able to make it most years because of the time of year her birthday is.  But....there's nothing we can really do to change it either.  Maybe...I'll just overcompensate with decorations!  Yeah....that will be the explanation for my husband in years to come!  ;)

Well....without further ado, I present to you....

THE DIVA PARTY!!!!!








For those of you interested, I'll share the details:
-Backdrop is simply some zebra-print wrapping paper hung from a curtain rod.
-Pink paper lanterns are from the Dollar Store - I found them several years back for a baby shower I was hosting and held on to them.
-The tissue poms I made myself with instructions from Pinterest.
-"Happy Birthday" banner is from A to Zebra Celebrations which I won on a giveaway about the time Cocoa came home.
-Cake and cookies were also inspired from Pinterest, but yes, I did make them myself.
-The cake pops and marshmallow pops were made with some much-needed assistance from my friend Annika (who I might as well call a cake-decorator...because, although it isn't her job, she is so amazing and helps out everyone in our circle of friends!)
-The candy jars are filled with 1) mini marshmallows and strawberry marshmallows 2) chocolate covered raisins 3) black, white, and pink sixlets (from Hobby Lobby).
-Cocoa's bib was a baby shower gift from my dear friend Elle J.
-The Headband and Onesie I made myself.
-The tutu is from Costco (but was gifted to her by her auntie Michelle).


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Thursday, January 10, 2013

All About The Hair Part 2


In my first post about hair, we discussed the history of black hair, curl types, the basics of black hair care, along with a break down of my step by step process of doing Cocoa's daily hair routine (AND all the products that go along with it).  Thank you to those who reached out with questions, comments, and kind words.  Sometimes in the bloggy world it can feel like you are talking on and on to yourself.  And while for the most part that's okay (after all, this is mostly a keepsake for my family to remember the ins and outs of our day to day life) it is nice to hear from y'all every now and then!

*Side note -- if you haven't already, would you please check out this post on how to make sure you get a response from me.....because just as you guys get to know me through my blog, I would love to get to know all my readers as well!  And I really do try to respond to every post.

Today I want to talk more about protective styling -- what it is, why we do it, ect.  It really is more than half of our styles and I truly believe it is the key to keeping Cocoa's curls soft and healthy.

What is protective styling?
It is styling your hair in such a way to protect it from the elements and prevent breakage.
It is also proven to help retain your length and improve the overall quality of the hair.
Protective styles are ones that are not worn loose, but rather focus on the ends being tucked away and moisturized.

Does everyone need to do it?
No.  Even within the curly community, some women just have strong hair that can seem to withstand free styles every day.  But the majority of curly girls will need to do protective styling to a certain extent.  Even some straight and wavy girls can benefit from this!  (I have weak, wavy hair and I try to do protective styling before I go to bed.  Without it I am fighting through knots in the morning, which often leads to breakage.)
*You can read more about when not to use protective styles HERE.*

How do you do it?
There are many types of protective styles, but if you are new to curly girl hair care, I suggest starting simple until you get the hang of it.  The purpose is to protect your hair, not to see how fancy you can get it.  That's just an added perk! =)  Here are some basics that we started out with...

Plaits
Plaiting:
This may seem like a foreign word to some of you, but plaiting is the simple braiding or entwining of hair.  Like I mentioned in my previous post, I plait Cocoa's hair before bedtime to prevent it from tangling up as she toss and turns all night (the girl is crazy).  Plaiting can be intricate styling, but when you hear me refer to it, I'm simply talking about jumbo, uneven sections (meaning not perfectly parted), put in twists or braids simply to protect her hair at night.  Easy enough, right?

Twists:
Twists - after being in and out of the pool
for days on end =)
Twists are really simple once you get your technique down.  I use a box section (I started out with large sections as I was learning and training Cocoa to sit for this) and divide it in half.  Each of the two strands I twist clockwise, and then wrap around each other COUNTER clockwise.  I finish with an elastic at the ends.  When you are first getting the hang of it you may find it helpful to keep an elastic at the base too (near the scalp).  In all honesty, I often still use elastic at the roots and ends to hold better.  It was just recently (in the last few months) that I started experimenting without one.
I really love this style because as her hair is still growing in length, she has a lot of baby hairs that tend to flip out of a style.  Because of the twisting in different directions I find this holds all those uneven ends in a lot better than braiding.

Flat Twists:
Once you have the basic twists down, you can do flat twists to change up the style.  I love the look of doing pivital partings off of a side part, but we have done it many different ways.  This is the way I do flat twists:
At the beginning of the row I take two very small box sections.  (Note: at the start I tend to part them off with a comb, and then from then on use my pinky finger for partings like I would in a french braid.)  Twist each clockwise and wrap around each other counter clockwise, keeping it as tight to the scalp as possible.  Then I take another box section and add it to the first box section and twist those together clockwise and then around the other section counter clockwise, and keep adding sections like that (almost like a two stranded french braid).
Since I haven't had a lot of experience with cornrows yet, this is a great alternative.  The smaller sections I use, the better the style stays put in my daughter's hair.  But I also love the look of large sections - so play around with it and see what works for you!

Step by step process for flat twists

Braids:
I think most of you know how to do braids - just divide the section into three parts and alternate crossing the left and right side over the middle!  Easy-peasy....except for all those little baby hairs that keep popping out and curling around my fingers!  Haha!  It definitely takes some time to get used to doing braids on curly hair when you are used to straight, silky locks.

French Braids:
My very first attempt at french braiding her hair.
Hmm......most of you probably know how to do this as well, but let's see if I can explain it anyway.  Like flat twists I tend to do them in rows, but we're using three strands (braid - duh!) instead of two.  When you add in the new section you add it to just the left and right strands and alternate crossing them over the middle strand.  Make sense?  Probably not.  If you don't already know how to do it, I suggest youtube!  =)  On Cocoa's hair I thought it looked really pretty but french braids use very loose tension so it only lasted a couple days before they fell out, and I tend to prefer styles that last a week or more.

Corn Rows:
Admittedly I have little experience with cornrows.  I actually have a friend I used to work with coming to teach me how to master those tight little braids.  However, I will happily share with you what I do know.
The technique is similar to a french braid, although instead of crossing the left and right sides over the middle, you are crossing it underneath.  For someone who has french braided their entire life, it takes some time and patience to teach your fingers how to do it this way.  I am at a point where I can do it, but it isn't tight to the scalp like it should be, so it doesn't last a full week.  Because of that I tend to stick to flat twists.  However, I have found that braids in general last longer in Cocoa's hair so I will continue to work on my technique.

Bantu Knots
Bantu Knots:
In whatever creative partings you can come up with (I tend to do pivotal partings, but I often see people using a box pattern) you start with your basic two-strand twist and then wrap it around itself (like a bun) and pin it in place.

Some more intricate styles...
Once I got these basic styles down I started getting creative.  I played with the size of sections I was working with as well as the shape and then started combining them with other styles!  Take a look for yourself:



If you need some inspiration, may I suggest a 
few of my favorites....
Natural Hair Does Care (and follow on IG)

Tools of the trade:
Wide tooth comb or Tangle Teezer - for detangling sections as you go
Rat-tail or regular comb - for parting
Duck-bill clips - for holding hair out of the way while you work on a particular section
Elastics (preferably not rubber bands, because they are too harsh on the hair and could cause breakage)
Water bottle - for dampening sections before styling
Moisturizer/Styling creme/gel - for moisturizing the hair and/or help hold it in place (sometimes I keep it simple with some coconut oil or hair balm.  Other times I need a gel or curl booster, depending on the style and amount of hold I need.)
Bobbi Pins - for holding small sections of hair
Accessories - beads, clips, bows, flowers, ect.

Notable Products to Try:
In Part 1 of this post I gave you a breakdown of our exact hair routine, along with all the products I use.  Since Cocoa's hair is ever changing, I have since then introduced new products to our line up.  Some of them I use intermittently with what I already had, and others I have come to like more and simply replaced what I used to have.  Of course there have also been a few duds that just did not work for us.  The Deva-Curl line, for example, simply did not provide enough moisture for Cocoa's hair.  I just do not believe that product line is meant for kinky-curly hair texture.  I have not talked to anyone with Cocoa's hair texture who has been happy with it.  That being said, I think that individuals with softer waves and looser curls might really like it.  I was able to use a small amount on my hair and it worked great!  But here are the newbies that put a smile on my face:



  • Marrakesh X Dreamsicle - This leave in conditioner leaves the hair so silky it makes it a breeze to detangle.  This is now my product of choice to mix into my water bottle for daily moisturizing.  I would compare it with the Redken Extreme Anti-Snap and tend to rotate between the two.
  • Ouidad Curl Quencher Intense Curl Creme - By far the BEST curl creme I have ever used on Cocoa's hair!  Remember all those things I was mixing to make the perfect hair creme?  This one has it all and more.  I apply it after moisturizing and oiling up her hair (using the shingling method works great for us).  I have been SO impressed with Ouidad's product selection and look forward to trying some more of their products this year hopefully.
  • Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Styling Gel - I'm pretty sure you all heard me loud and clear when I stated not to use a hair gel on your babe's curly hair.  I have hated gel since as long as I can remember.  Being alcohol based, they tend to suck the moisture out of your strands and after they dry, leave a crunchy feel and flake if you run your fingers through it.  And yet I stand corrected with this miracle concoction.  I have to mention that alcohol is listed in the first few ingredients....and yet after using up a hefty sample from Sephora, I went out and bought a bottle for my daughter.  Her hair stays soft and supple, never crunchy, and never flaky.  When I'm out of curl creme, I can absolutely use this in its place.  However, curl creme is my first choice because it still does work the best for Cocoa's hair.  The gel tends to have a little more hold (a soft, flexible hold...but a hold nonetheless) while the creme leaves it more in its natural state.   I use this gel when I am putting in twists and braids, or pulling back into a pony or pigtails to help keep those baby hairs in place.  I also tend to use this when I am touching up styles after it has been a couple days and her baby hairs are going every which way.  I put a little on my hands and smooth it over her twists or cornrows or whatever style she has in, followed by a little hairspray to help her style look a little more polished.  By the end of the day they are still popping back up again (simply because they are no longer PART of the twist or braid) but it is a good quick fix if I am going somewhere and she is starting to look fuzzy.
  • Pureology Cuticle Polisher - Although I use this creamy serum more often in my hair than hers, it is nice to have on hand when I'm putting her bang area back in a pouf just to smooth out the top layer and help it look extra glossy or shiny.  It is also great for a second day pony.  After she has slept on it a lot of baby hairs tend to fall out and I can smooth this over those hairs along with some hairspray to make it look polished again.  To use it you just put a smaller-than-a-pea-size amount on your hands (Pureology is notoriously super concentrated giving you lots of bang for your buck.) and rub together.  It will soften as a result of the warmth and friction and is ready to apply to your hair when it becomes silky smooth and slick.
  • Alterna Caviar Anti-Aging Working Hair Spray - When I need a little hairspray to set a style or make a curl cooperate, this is my go-to.  This has been my favorite hair spray for years.  I used it in the salon on all my clients and on myself so naturally it is what I gravitated towards when I needed to make Cocoa's Gwen-inspired pony stay in place.  It held her hair great without leaving a cakey build-up.  If you are looking for a good spray for ANY hair type, I would highly suggest it.  It is a working hair spray, meaning it has a flexible hold.  But if I really need a look to stay put, I use it as I am styling, and then layer it on thick when the look finished.  Unless you need something cemented in place (which I don't really suggest on curly hair anyway...soft, pliable, natural hair is usually what I am going for), this will do the job.
  • Alterna Caviar Anti-Aging Rapid Repair Spray - This is a finishing shine spray.  I always finish Cocoa's styles off with either this or the Carol's Daughter Tui Hair Sheen.  This one is a little more light weight (enough so that I can use it on my own hair) whereas the CD one would leave me a grease-bomb.  I still love it on my girl though.


Please keep in mind...
There are a few important things to know about protective styles.  First of all, pay attention to the amount of tension you are putting on the hair.  With children it can be hard to tell (especially if you have a child like my Cocoa who cries no matter WHAT you do to her hair) if you are using too much tension, so keep a close watch on their scalp.  Any sign of redness could mean you are being too rough and you should loosen your tension a bit.  If you see little red bumps, this is a sign that you need to stop, and pull out the style if necessary and give her (or his) scalp a break.  I've never had this happen to me (thankfully), but I can imagine the frustration after all the time you put into that style to take it out a little early (or right away).  But believe me, damage can be irreversible.  I don't mean to scare you, but if you don't believe me just do a little research on traction alopecia.  You just don't want to go there.

Second, don't think that just because the hair is in a protective style you are done.  Moisturizing is essential because without it the hair could become dry and brittle or even start to dread.  We keep a water bottle filled with water and a little conditioner and mist this over her protective styles daily (and often twice daily).  30 seconds max.  No biggie.

Third, please pay attention to how long they are in.  We are still working on finding the right timeline here (I'll say it over and over again, it's a learning process) but again just watch for irritation or little red bumbs on the scalp as well as the condition of the hair.  If the style begins to unwind, I find that on Cocoa's hair the little tendrils that fall out become really, really dry.  For that reason (and because I'm a perfectionist, admittedly) we don't tend to leave styles in for more than a week.  But that varies by each person and their unique head of hair.  Different curl types will hold styles a different amount of time as well.

If you find that your styles aren't last a full week like you want them to, in my experience it will most likely be because of one of the following:

  1. You need to use a little more tension.  There is a fine line between using too much tension and not enough.  In most cases, your child will let you know if you are pulling too hard.  If not, their scalp will.  As I mentioned before, keep an eye out for redness and those little bumps as indicators that it is too much.  
  2. You aren't using the right product combination.  There is a definite learning curve when it comes to finding the right concoction for your little one's hair.  To make matters even more difficult, it is ever evolving.  Just keep trying things out, and don't forget to take advantage of those free samples Sephora hands out so generously.  They have saved me from spending big bucks on the wrong thing.  Also keep in mind that Sephora will gladly return anything you are unhappy with - online or in store.  If you don't even know where to begin, make an appointment with a curly hair stylist and get his or her professional advice specifically for your child's head of hair.
  3. Your technique could use some polishing.  There was a time where I swear I tried EVERYthing to make a style last more than three days and I was completely at a loss as to what I was doing wrong.  I asked every AA woman I met, asked all my favorite bloggers, adoptive moms...and no one seemed to have an answer for me.  Over time and with practice I found that her styles would start lasting longer and longer so I have come to the conclusion that  it had to do with my technique (well that, and as my daughter grew, her hair did too).  I believe it is something you have to practice until you have it perfect (or close to perfect...don't put too much pressure on yourself).

I'm not claiming to know all there is to know about protective styles OR that I am the best at it.  This is definitely still a learning process for me and I take every opportunity I can get to learn more about it.  I watch youtube tutorials and read others' blog posts and ask other moms.  I missed an amazing opportunity to go to a class hosted by a local AA salon, but I was kinda getting my daughter dedicated that day so I had a good excuse.  ;)  But hopefully there will be another opportunity like that and I can share some more that I have learned!  I'm also kind of obsessed with Pinterest and have a whole board dedicated to my passion for hair.  If you need some inspiration, feel free to check it out (you can follow the link at the top left of my blog)!

Well!  That concludes Part 2 folks!  Although I don't have plans for a Part 3, I can tell you that more hair posts will definitely be in the future, because it is something I am passionate about.  In the meantime, please do let me know if there is a topic you are interested in that I didn't cover for you today.  If you have any specific questions, please post them in the comments below or shoot me an email (button on the top left of my blog).  I won't claim to have all the answers, but if there is a way I can help you, I would be happy to!

Although I'm not always the best at posting Cocoa's styles here on my blog, I do post them to Instagram quite often, as well as photos of the styling process.  You can find out how to follow me on Pinterest, Instragram, Facebook, Twitter, and more on the top left of my blog (yes, this is new)!

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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

A Year In Review

Looking at my stats I noticed my number of posts has been cut in half two years in a row.  Pathetic according to my standards.  Since you all have missed out on so much of our lives in the last year, I thought I quickly catch you all up by doing our year in review!!! =)

2012: In Review...

January  
-In January we finally celebrated Cocoa Puff's first birthday with a huge zebra-themed birthday bash.  She looked darling as ever in her zebra and pink tutu!
-We were also blessed many snow days to keep us occupied.


February
-Taking advantage of all the holidays, we celebrated Valentine's Day to the max with a mommy date to Starbucks and incredible chocolate heart shaped desserts!  
-The kids finally got to enjoy the great outdoors without the need for a big winter coat.  
-Mom got experimental and we began another chapter in Cocoa Puff's hair journey with flat twists.  
-Daddy celebrated his big 29 with Mexican food and a rainbow cake (all Hollywood's idea)!

March
-We celebrated my 27th birthday, along with a surprise delivery of cupcakes sent from an amazing friend living all the way in California.
-We had even more snow...yes, in March!
-We Finally got all the cousins together again for a big birthday bash and spent the afternoon at a water park with all 8 of them!


April
-This month we celebrated Easter - including a huge feast and an egg hunt in our back yard with friends!
-It finally got warm enough for mama to start walking again, so we broke out the sweatshirts, sunglasses, and stroller for several strolls around the block.
-The sun shined warm enough to risk blinding the whole world with my vampire legs.


May
-In May, daddy finally agreed to let me renovate the living room with board and batten and a fresh color scheme!
-I celebrated my first Mother's Day with my husband HOME, which meant lots of him spoiling and me relaxing!
-We broke in our new ride with a road trip to California to visit the Bentley family and reunite our girls for the first time since Hannah's Hope!
-While in Cali we also drove down to Little Ethiopia to meet up with the Skidmore family so Cocoa could see another one of her Hannah's Hope buddies!


June
-We celebrated Cocoa Puff's first Gotcha Day (June 26th) with a photo shoot and some excellent Ethiopian food, (I can say that because I didn't make it this time =) and also debuted her Gotcha Video for the first time.
-It got warm enough outside for bathing suits, swimming pools, and water balloon fights with the neighbors!
-We spent a weekend with the extended family for a much needed updated family photo.  Cocoa Puff turned on the charm and Hollywood cried the whole time.
-We said goodbye to the Bentley's as they moved their family to Ethiopia to begin their ministry there.


July
-In July we celebrated Cocoa Puff being home for one year (July 2nd).
-We entered the 4th of July Kiddie Parade for the first time along with some of our dear friends, followed up by the BIG parade and our annual BBQ with daddy's work buddies!
-We finally planted our garden (we missed our one sunny opportunity because of our Cali trip) and watered daily, anxious for those seeds to sprout.
-We spent a weekend at Deception Pass with the extended family and soaked up the rays on the beach.
-We spent our annual "Church Camp" on the lake with friends and family.  It was Cocoa's first camping trip and Hollywood's first time catching a fish!  We spent 4 days, and next year hope to go for even longer.
-We celebrated great-grandma's last birthday with us over chocolate cake!

August
-Cocoa Puff got her first set of yarn extensions in only her favorite color!  Time consuming, but fabulously worth it.
-We spent the majority of the month sun-bathing and swimming in our backyard.
-Hollywood outgrew his bike and asked for a new one for his birthday.
-We spent a weekend helping grandpa and grandma while they were caring for great-grandma in her last weeks.  The kids helped pick some corn and feed the cows (with some help from grandpa) while mom and dad prepared dinner.

September
-We finally started collecting some produce from our garden - zuchinni, squash, carrots, and pumpkins!  The corn never made it past a couple inches tall (thanks to the racoons that help themselves).  The jalepenos and green onions just never got big enough due to being planted so late.  Oh well.
-Hollywood started preschool (at home).  
-We soaked up every last ray of sun before it disappeared for another year.
-Mama finally got a girl's day out - a relaxing and much needed break.
-Cocoa Puff started potty training herself...
-Hollywood celebrated his 4th BIRTHDAY in style with a construction theme he has been dreaming up for the last 9 months!!!

October
-October started off with an impromptu road trip to California for our Great-Grandma's funeral.  We celebrated her joy-filled life in style and gained some much needed family bonding time.
-We returned home to a 30 degree temperature drop and all got sick.
-We enjoyed a trip to the pumpkin patch with friends and lots of yummy snacks.
-Although we spent a lot of time raking leaves, I think we ended up only tackling about half of them since there is a slimy trail imbedded in our driveway.
-We spent Halloween at our church's annual "Trunk or Treat".  Mom and Dad dressed as bank robbers while Hollywood chose both his race car costume as well as Cocoa's butterfly costume.

November
-November we were proud to exercise our right to vote once again!
-Family pictures finally happened...and we could be more thrilled with the results!
-Cocoa Puff got her first haircut and hair straightening (don't worry, it was just the flat iron...nothing permanent)!
-We spent Thanksgiving with BOTH sides of the family and enjoyed tea parties, Grandpa snuggles, and helping our uncle and aunt pick out their Christmas tree!

December
-December was more hectic than ever!  Because of our jam-packed schedule we started Christmas shopping early, treating the kids to lunch as a reward for behaving so well.
-We spent the first weekend in December picking out our Christmas tree - woohoo it was a beauty!
-Cocoa had surgery mid-December.  Her tonsils were shaved and adenoids removed to treat sleep apnea and snoring issues.
-Cocoa Puff turned TWO!!!  But we had a low-key birthday due to it being one week post-op.
-We got to spend Christmas Eve at HOME for the second time EVER!!!  Mama was soooo happy =)
-Big Christmas celebrations with both sides of the family, but spread out, made for a fun and festive holiday!
-New Year's Eve was spent at my cousin's wedding and then home a little early with sick kids but an awesome New Year's kiss =)

Phew!  That was quite a year...wonder what's in store for 2013!!!

So what's next with This Domesticated Diva?  Instead of playing two years of catch up, I decided I would just start with the now, and if I have a week with nothing to blog about, I may do some flashback posts.  Sound good?  Hope so, cuz that's what's happening here!!! =)  Here goes 2013...

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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Resolutions: 2013

Happy New Year!!!

You know, 2012 was not a bad year by any means.  There were a lot of beautiful moments, lots of memories made, and a lot of special individuals who touched my life.  So many beautiful things, in fact, that I haven't had time to blog most of them.  But as I look forward into 2013 and what I would like to accomplish, I feel the need to make some intentional changes by reflecting on this past year.

In 2012, a lot of things happened that were completely out of our control, and yet the happened for a reason.  We dealt with a new job position, cancer, surgeries, separation, and the loss of a loved one (just to name a few of the big ones).  Many these instances left my brain muddled.  I feel like much of last year just happened, but it wasn't intentional.  We were fumbling through the crazy, just trying to make it through one thing so we could get to the other.  As a result, I have lost any sort of schedule I did have and any organization I once attempted.  I have "to-do" lists up the wazoo that aren't even half crossed off and piles of laundry up to my ears.  I have been so busy catching up on life that I haven't had any time to do some of the things that just make me feel like me.

So with a little inspiration from Whippy Cake and House of Smiths (two of my FAVorite blogs, BTW!) I have decided to choose One Little Word to push me into the new year.  One Little Word to reflect on, strive for, and define this new year.


CREATE: 1). To bring into existence. 2). To produce or bring about by a course of action or behavior.
Source: Webster's Dictionary

I want this One Little Word to remind me to:

Create one on one time with my Lord and Savior...
Create a deeper relationship with my spouse...
Create memories with my family...
Create a schedule I can stick to...
Create a system to keep me organized...
Create some me time - some time for crafting...
Create beautiful music...
Create an Etsy store...
Create healthy and kid friendly meals the whole family can enjoy...
Create a fitness routine that is fun and helps me reach my goals...

I want to be a person who finds the beautiful moments in everything, and often, that starts with your mindset.  I want to choose to focus on the positive, not the negative...to create a positive atmosphere, wherever I may be.  The word CREATE reminds me of all of these things.

Psalm 51:10 "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."

What One Little Word would YOU choose to inspire you this year?



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Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Picture Perfect

**Found an older post I never published**

Every time I log into my blog, I am reminded how far overdue my family is for photos.  The pictures in my header were taken last August.  LAST AUGUST!  Last summer my baby was just that - a baby!  She hadn't been home two months.  Boy, was life different then!  It almost exhausts me just thinking about our life last summer.  Although I wouldn't trade it for the world!

But funny enough, that's not what I see when I look at those photos.  Maybe it's deceiving to others when they see the "picture perfect" family, but when I look at those photos I see joy.  I see love.  I see my two little darlings and remember that the best thing about last summer was bringing our little Cocoa home.

As I prepare with eager excitement for the next shoot (am I weird that this is that exciting for me?!?) my mind keeps me up late at night thinking of all the possibilities.  I'm planning hairstyles, color schemes, locations, props, and of course - the wardrobe!

As I was scrolling through our photographer's online portfolio, I paused to show my husband one spectacular wedding shot.  Although he agreed that it was a beautiful photo, he added "Wow, that is impossible to live up to though."  I stopped to think about it before asking him what exactly he meant by that, to which he explained that it was almost like a fairy tale.

No, real life isn't dressed to the nines in the moonlight, gazing into each other's eyes under twinkling lights, is it?  Nor is it lounging in a vintage chair in the middle of the woods.  Real life isn't picture perfect.  Nor would I want it to be.  Real life is hard work.  It is sweat and tears and heartache.  Real life can be stretching and overwhelming.  But through those hard times comes the true beauty.  In those hard times come the redemption and reward that is only found by walking it with Him by your side.

So yes, maybe I am dreaming of a fairy tale.  But whenever I look back on our life, I will choose to look at the beauty.  I won't forget the hard times, but I will dwell on the beauty that emerged from it.

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Where Am I?

It's a fair question.  I finally started getting back to kinda normal posting speed and then dropped off the face of the planet, right?  I just want you to know I haven't given up on this blog.  I'm not going anywhere.  The explanation is simple - I ran out of photo storage and I'm trying to figure out the next step!  I need a tech-y friend to walk me through this, not gonna lie.  But stay tuned, our family just had a photo shoot done so new pics ARE coming!!!! =)

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